tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post5172403390180699744..comments2023-09-02T11:36:58.025-04:00Comments on B & T Wedding: Everyone Else's InvolvementTracyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13423398437754661286noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post-76014825230916899232011-04-07T21:16:52.184-04:002011-04-07T21:16:52.184-04:00Thanks for all the feedback! It's great to hea...Thanks for all the feedback! It's great to hear everyone's advice & experiences, esp those of you whose MILs were more involved- my friends and I definitely have the opposite experiences. We're going to be checking out some sample centerpieces soon, so I'll definitely take her along for that, and to help me pick from my three dress choices.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423398437754661286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post-24841848024440908402011-04-07T15:25:18.370-04:002011-04-07T15:25:18.370-04:00To be honest, I could *not* have planned our weddi...To be honest, I could *not* have planned our wedding without my mother in law. She was a God send! We live in NY but the wedding was in PA where Rob is from. My parents live in Virginia where I grew up. We hosted the wedding and to be honest I did most of the planning on my own but having his mother in town really came in handy. She doesn't have any daughters and it meant the world to her to have such a large role. When it came to feelings, my mom was great. "Wedding buzz" really isn't her thing and planning my sisters wedding almost did her in. But Rob's mom *loved* talking about tiny details, reading my blog, and picking out invitations LOL My mom helped me with a lot of out of town aspects and was my DIY queen. It was the perfect combination.<br /><br />Best advice is to delegate tasks to her that you know she'll love and do well with- invite her to things that she can be excited to attend. Programs, favors, tastings, OOT bags, etc. Basically, she wants to have things to talk to her friends about too when they ask "how are your son's wedding plans coming along"Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04016963796201775781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post-59986126861595528812011-04-07T12:14:25.033-04:002011-04-07T12:14:25.033-04:00It's important to have both sets involved in s...It's important to have both sets involved in some way. I actually have the OPPOSITe problem...we live with my fiance's parents and are getting married in their hometown on Long Island..and my parents live in Pennsylvania! Sooo I had to really make sure I was still including my mom in the planning. She took it hard at first..but we worked it out great and everyone feels equally invovled. When is your big day? I'd love to add you to my "blogging brides" page! Email me at info@lauraandchristopher.comSaying I dohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018468018750596968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post-1158462887691220282011-04-06T21:30:54.601-04:002011-04-06T21:30:54.601-04:00I think the effort goes a long way, at least it di...I think the effort goes a long way, at least it did with my MIL. We have dinner with her often, so I would bring things over to show her and send her emails like "here's our photographer's blog, check it out." I invited her along for dress shopping and tastings. I think she just liked being asked as much as anything else.Meaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10423963591112722595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3645425288834736005.post-49077675156500030562011-04-06T20:21:08.031-04:002011-04-06T20:21:08.031-04:00I asked my FMIL to take care of certain elements. ...I asked my FMIL to take care of certain elements. She is going to handle the OOT bags and the bathroom baskets for the reception. I'm also inviting her to go dress shopping with me and my mom. I know that my mom and I have already found my dress, but I'm going to make an apt at another salon and ask her to go. I've asked for her input when I've got an invitation mock up done too. It's the little things.sandytoesbridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07385830183513062950noreply@blogger.com